希望沟壑

“-You’re wrong. Tell him, Edward.

-Tell him what?

-That God exists.

-You can’t tell people a thing like,God’s not information. God’s a conviction . It’s like love. You don’t tell love. You feel love.

-That’s right. That’s just how it is.

-I love you, Edward,whether I want to or not.

And I never thought in a million years you’d stop loving me.

-You must get over it, darling.

You must forth come.

-Well, it doesn’t seem to be very easy.

-But you do want to.

-Grace, Grace,can’t we...Can’t we be friends?

-Friends,uh,no. I don’t think so. It all went on too long,didn’t it?

-I wish ...

-You wish we’d never met?

-No,of course,not.

-I do. I do. I wish we’d never met. I’d wish I’d never loved you, but we did and I do. I did. And now I have to try and let you go.

-Don’t think too badly of me.

-I try not to think of you at all. I’m getting quite good at it during the day. But at night, I dream about you. Unfair, isn’t it? ”

剧本写得很细。

我注意到大爷几次提到自己的新欢Angela，一次是当儿子问他：“你不是今天就要搬走吧？”时，

他说：“Angela觉得没必要拖”。

第二次是在律师事务所，面对妻子的愤怒和质疑，

他说：“Angela说得对，我不应该同意跟你来签这个协议”。

第三次是爷儿俩在餐厅吃羊肉，

他说：“Angela说我和Grace不合适。”

短短几个一带而过的只言片语，一下子就把这位大爷那种怯懦，被动，不敢承担责任的形象给勾勒出来了。说实话我很同情大妈，这位大爷真的，太消极了。跟这种人结婚你不强势都得强势，不发疯都得发疯。大爷虽然口口声声说在新欢那里感受到了真爱，不求回报不受控制，但是你看，来来回回，还是得靠另一个女人做决定。

我跟他儿子有同样的判断：“您早干嘛去了！”

你说你不高兴，不幸福，一直受气。你怎么不早说！跌跌撞撞29年，突然碰见另一个女的，人家说“害，我觉得你跟你老婆不合适。你跟她离了咱俩过。”

然后大爷就顿悟了，觉着自己找到真爱了，以前的日子都是白搭。

文本写得很好，人物刻画得很细腻。我很有共鸣，每个人物都是很可理解的正常人。这是一部普通人的史诗。可能大妈的角色跟我更像吧。这大爷也真的像极了我会喜欢的男人的类型。

一则警世恒言，看，这就是文艺Drama Queen找了逆来顺受闷葫芦男的下场。

这本就不是一段势均力敌的关系。就像男主说的，他们俩从相遇时就错把对方想象成另一个人。女主是强势的，她有着丰富的内心生活，独立，锋利，有想法，有些控制欲，有些高姿态，有些自我，有些不尊重他人，有些咄咄逼人，应该也有些不安全感。她应该是一个懂得如何精彩而丰盈的生活着的人。而男主是怯懦的，他对她的怯懦已经到了是不经思索的本能。在他离开以后，他们再次在律师办公室里见面，她再次挑起争端，他要离去，她呵斥他站住时，他几乎是身体本能的僵在那里不敢动弹。他爱上了其他女子，可在日常生活中依旧对妻子百般顺从，任她差遣。他的沉默，是源于他从不敢说出自己的真实想法。我想在他的沉默之前，他一定已经试着表达。可惜他们的能量相差太远，他没有办法与她抗衡，他们也因此无法一起成长。

他最终选择了一个愿意为他默默沏茶的女子，一个能让他感受到尊重和爱的女子。哪怕那个女子平庸无趣。至少他终于找到了自己。

而她，值得一个更精彩的男人。一个能真正和她较量，能彼此成长的男人。

「You're a non-completer. → Oh, am I? → Are you a completer? → Up to a point. Can one complete anything up to a point? I don't think so.」

「Whatever you're going through, someone's been through it before you, put it into words.」

「Just because there's no blood, don't think it's not a murder. He's murdering a marriage. Marriages don't bleed, but it's still murder. → Marriages break down. It happens all the time. Nobody wants it to happen but it does, and we have to live with it.」

「After all, suppose it was a cancer and you were in unbearable pain and dying only too slowly, Then I'd say end it now wouldn't I? Out of my love for you. So if your life hurts you so much that you want to end it, I won't stop you. out of my love for you, only just tell me. Don't let it be a surprise. Give me time to say goodbye. I can't ask you to live for me. But we each have to carry our own burden. You're like the explorer. You're further down the road. You've gone on ahead. So if after a while you don't go on anymore, then I'll know that the road is too hard and for too long. I'll know that in the end, the unhappiness wins. But if you do go on and bear it, terrible as it is, then I'll know that however bad it gets, I can last it out because you did before me.」

「Sudden Light By Dante Gabriel Rossetti

I have been here before,

But when or how I cannot tell:

I know the grass beyond the door,

The sweet keen smell,

The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

You have been mine before,—

How long ago I may not know:

But just when at that swallow's soar

Your neck turn'd so,

Some veil did fall,—I knew it all of yore.

Has this been thus before?

And shall not thus time's eddying flight

Still with our lives our love restore

In death's despite,

And day and night yield one delight once more?」

「Say not the struggle nought availeth. The labor and the wounds are vain. The enemy faints not nor faileth. And as things have been, they remain. For while, the tired waves vainly breaking seem here no painful inch gain far back through creeks and inlets making come silent flooding in the main. And not by eastern windows only when daylight comes, comes in the light. In front, the sun climbs slow, how slowly. But westward look, the land is bright.」

「I began by thinking I could save you, but in the end, all I can do is honor you. My mother, first among women, my warmth and my comfort, my safety, my pride, you're the one I want to please. You're the one I want to applaud me. My father, first among men, my teacher and myjudge. The man I know I will become. You grow older now. You'll still ahead of me as you'll always be. Forever further down the road. Forgive me for needing you to be strong forever. Forgive me for fearing your unhappiness. As you suffer, so I shall suffer. As you endure, so I shall endure. Hold my hands and walk the old walk one last time then let me go.」

很好的剧本，很妙的用诗歌和二战故事铺陈着情绪讲述着生活中不断重复着的现实。 对我情绪触动很大的一个是在Edward离开后 女主在冰箱茶杯各个他能她能想到的他还在时可能触碰的地方都放上I love u的纸条，另外也在儿子和女主hope gap散步时，关于自杀的对话；也很希望女主的诗选以及她浪漫又充满希望的概念“I’ve been here before” 。

摘電影裡提及的詩中我最喜歡的兩首

Sudden Light 明灭之间

BY Dante Gabriel Rossetti

I have been here before,

But when or how I cannot tell:

I know the grass beyond the door,

The sweet keen smell,

The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

我曾来过这里，

但是说不清是何时何故：

我记得门外的野草

和他们那清甜的味道，

海潮的叹息和岸边的灯火。

You have been mine before,—

How long ago I may not know:

But just when at that swallow's soar

Your neck turn'd so,

Some veil did fall,—I knew it all of yore.

你曾经属于我，

是多久之前我已记不得：

但就在燕子腾空的一刹那，

你回头看见了我，

面纱也随之垂落——但那已经是很久以前的事了。

Has this been thus before?

And shall not thus time's eddying flight

Still with our lives our love restore

In death's despite,

And day and night yield one delight once more?

是早已如此？

还是因为经历了时间的漩涡，

我们的爱随着生活的过往开始修复。

就算置生死于不顾，

还能否在日夜的更替间再寻得一丝欢愉？

The Old Walk

像往常一样的散步

by William Nicholson (writer/director)

I began by thinking I could save you,

but in the end all I can do is honor you.

My mother, first among women,

my warmth and my comfort, my safety, my pride.

You are the one I want to please,

you are the one I want to applaud me.

开始我以为能拯救你，

但最后只能赞颂你。

我的母亲，我最爱的女人，我的温暖和安逸，安全和自豪。

我只想取悦你，

我只想让你为我骄傲。

My father first among men,

my teacher and my judge,

the man I know I will become.

You grow older now,

you are still ahead of me as you will always be, forever further down the road.

我的父亲，我最爱的男人，

我的老师，我的裁判，

是我以后会成为的那个人。

虽然你已经不再年轻，

但你还是一如往常地走在我的前面，走在比我远的路上。

Forgive me for needing you to be strong forever.

Forgive me for fearing your unhappiness.

As you suffer so I shall suffer.

As you endure I shall endure.

Hold my hands and walk the old walk one last time, then let me go.

原谅我对你的需要，需要你永远坚强。

原谅我对你的担心，担心你的不快乐。

因为你痛苦我就痛苦

你难受我就难受

请握着我的手

最后一次

像往常一样去散步

然后让我走。

首先想说的是，这部电影的音乐真的是太治愈了，它就像是大海，可以包容一切。优美的旋律既让人内心平静，又莫名地带给你希望和力量。

非常喜欢这部电影，有些婚姻或恋情走到尽头，很难去分辨对错，其实就是人不合适。

格蕾丝和爱德华是一对结婚29年的夫妻。格蕾丝有点强势、说话占上风，虽对爱德华有诸多不满，但也只是说说而已。爱德华的性格却截然相反，不喜欢表达，而就是这个看似懦弱、从不想争论的丈夫却有了外遇，在结婚29周年纪念日的前一周提出了离婚。这让格蕾丝几近崩溃。

片中儿子对父亲爱德华的话堪称点睛之笔，他责怪父亲如果觉得不合适，为什么不早点走？为什么没有在她逼你的时候对她生气？为什么没有一开始就告诉她你真实的想法？ 直到你离开的那天起，她还一直以为你们深爱着彼此。

一段婚姻走向尽头，就是从一方的冷暴力开始的。

婚姻只要在两个人都愿意改变时才能变得美满。

强不代表可以掌控一切；弱也不代表无力反击。

无论是婚姻还是恋爱都应该是对等的关系。

影片的结局并没有落入俗套地去展现格蕾丝的蜕变。想要从婚姻的阴霾中走出来，除了时间，无解。

所以，电影的最后，格蕾丝一定要去看爱德华最后一面，看看他想要的生活是什么样的，看看他爱的安吉拉，这样她才能跟过去的婚姻、过去的自己告别，重新开始一段新的旅程。